tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1177425200404128301.post5239064711866213417..comments2011-01-24T15:59:33.817-05:00Comments on Eclectic Experiment: Friendscarriehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00483414028348315498noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1177425200404128301.post-29172817240600241382007-06-24T00:46:00.000-05:002007-06-24T00:46:00.000-05:00Hey Carrie...I'm just catching up with your blog.....Hey Carrie...I'm just catching up with your blog....I've missed "seeing" you. Hope the search for rl, uncomplicated friends goes well. :-) I think it takes a bit of effort to find one or two friends who are effortless.my15minuteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17120108669030817877noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1177425200404128301.post-70498487200545477422007-06-19T21:30:00.000-05:002007-06-19T21:30:00.000-05:00Well, you've nailed it. I'm so glad we're not so n...Well, you've nailed it. I'm so glad we're not so needy that we can't be good buds.The tyrany of the urgent just has to be subdued by someone else :D.<BR/><BR/>Certainly, my move first to Asheville, then to Charlotte (but interestingly closer to you :D), really heightened the importance of the online relationships, but the preferences extend farther than the convenience. More has been shared.<BR/><BR/>I, too, like it this way. It provides a solid base to venture from and deal with the necessities of IRL connections.<BR/>Karen<BR/>PS - I promise to stay uncomplicated if you do :D.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13806129199321291569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1177425200404128301.post-73368890027890307272007-06-15T14:09:00.000-05:002007-06-15T14:09:00.000-05:00Aren't all of us who were a part of that internet ...Aren't all of us who were a part of that internet community going through what you mentioned in some way? TD met a need. I could be friends with someone at 2 am or noon while nursing or 10 am while it was homeschooling snack time. Online communities allow you to invest your time on your own schedule. Irl friends mean adjusting both schedules in order to talk on the phone or meet irl, that makes things more difficult. And, irl, the myriad of topics discussed on places such as TD and LP don't always come up as easily in conversation.<BR/><BR/>I've been working on my irl community, as you well know, but it has been difficult. The scheduling thing is a huge part of it. And, the mainenance... it's hard to maintain an ongoing conversation when it is done irl... online the conversation flows from day to day. Irl that can only happen if you see that person everyday or talk to them on the phone. I am not a phone person and there's no way I could see the same person everyday irl even if I wanted to. <BR/><BR/>So, there's my two cents. Do you feel satisified socially currently? If so, why worry about having more irl friends? If not, than I guess that is a reason for action.Dalissa McEwen Reederhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05424482684428232565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1177425200404128301.post-79846627437418424122007-06-14T20:30:00.000-05:002007-06-14T20:30:00.000-05:00But that's not the same as actually cultivating th...<I>But that's not the same as actually cultivating the ones that would be meaningful to me.</I><BR/><BR/>Do you feel like this is a lot of work? I sound lazy, I know, but the demands seem daunting to me.<BR/><BR/>It's true that in some ways I have more time since my kids are older, which is probably why I'm even coming up for air right now and realizing what's been going on around me. <BR/><BR/>We'll have to compare notes every so often and see how things unfold.carriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00483414028348315498noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1177425200404128301.post-2422920177692980602007-06-13T20:24:00.000-05:002007-06-13T20:24:00.000-05:00This happened with me too. I think the move from C...This happened with me too. I think the move from California to Ohio coincided with the beginning of the forums where you and I became friends and I found those friendships so satisfying, I didn't feel motivated to make irl friendships. I have loads of friendships <I>through</I> things: sports, homeschool, my kids. But that's not the same as actually cultivating the ones that would be meaningful to me.<BR/><BR/>Lately I've been wanting to be friends with people here, irl. I have established significant connections with some of my grad school friends and also my long term homeschool friends who are now less burdened by children than we used to be as more of our kdis head off to college and into high school.<BR/><BR/>That's really helped.<BR/><BR/>I'll be interested to hear how it all goes with you. I'm on the same journey. :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00088119765077193302noreply@blogger.com